Day of Respite

Well, we made to Amarillo, Texas.  Day three was a good day, despite the tablet being dead.  We did have more pit stops that I was hoping for, but I am learning to be more accepting of those extra stops.  I did have a hard time with the “Hey Pops, I need to go potty”, literally as we were pulling back on to the interstate, from a pit stop.  Overall, Sebellah did very well adjusting to life on the road with no tablet.

Day 4, is a planned day of respite from the road for both of us.  Sebellah needed a break from her car seat and Pops needed a break from driving.  I think days and weekends of respite is important for all of us, especially, grandparents raising a grandchild.  We need days when we can refuel and get our individual adult needs met.

Lolli was kind and ordered a kindle version of Love and Logic for me.  I definitely need the Love and Logic reminders as we journey across the country.  One of the main principles that I need to continue to work on is allowing Sebellah to face the natural challenges and consequences of life.  I tend to try and prevent as many as possible, thinking that is in her best interest.  Of course, it is not.  She will only learn as I allow her to face those challenges and to even experience the pain when she fails.  I also need to not predict what she cannot do.  I know that I often, with safety in mind, say, “Sebellah, don’t do that or you can’t do that”.  I realize that by doing that I am actually handicapping her more than equipping her.  So, I am working on that.  This trip is a great place to practice that, especially when watching her play on new playground equipment, for example.

So, today, we are enjoying a day of respite from the road.  I am thankful for the opportunity to have this experience and adventure.  Tomorrow, it is back on the road and off to Oklahoma.

Sharing the Journey,


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I have been involved in the field of Human Services for 30 plus years. I teach in the field of Human Services for Purdue University Global. Allene is a stay at home "Lolli", after spending many years in the Healthcare field. We have 3 adult children and in May, 2018, we adopted our granddaughter, who is 6 years-old. We have had her since she was 5 months old. At the end of 2019, we moved to Mount Airy, North Carolina, as a part of a plan to downsize and give Allene the chance to retire, and be at home full-time. We are devoted to making a difference in Sebellah's life and also in the lives of other grandparents raising grandchildren.

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