I am the Lolli part of this endeavor.¬† Rich and I have been married for 13 years. We were our own universe¬† happy just to be together, have adventures and experience the joy and wonder of togetherness. My adult daughter struggled with addiction and mental illness for years. She had times that she would stabilize and do ok, but most of the time her life was chaotic. For this reason we had taken a step back from her- not loving her less, but needed to not live in the place that she lived in. Then she had this amazing, beautiful little girl that was born addicted to opiates. When DCS removed Sebellah from her home at 4 1/2 months and placed her with us, our world expanded. Instead of a family of two, now we were 3-at times a completely overwhelmed and terrified family of 3! As the months, and then years went by our family grew to a tribe of people that became intrinsically entwined in our lives, that surrounded our small family of three, laughed with us in joy, mourned with us in our grief, and celebrated the milestones and each small victory. This is family in all of it’s messy, beautiful and most pure form.

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I have been involved in the field of Human Services for 30 plus years. I teach in the field of Human Services for Purdue University Global. Allene is a stay at home "Lolli", after spending many years in the Healthcare field. We have 3 adult children and in May, 2018, we adopted our granddaughter, who is 6 years-old. We have had her since she was 5 months old. At the end of 2019, we moved to Mount Airy, North Carolina, as a part of a plan to downsize and give Allene the chance to retire, and be at home full-time. We are devoted to making a difference in Sebellah's life and also in the lives of other grandparents raising grandchildren.

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  1. So grateful for your love, courage and commitment to your Granddaughter, and unbeknownst to her; your Daughter as well. Love you guys.

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